Women with gay husbands
Bonnie Kaye – author of Straight Wives: Shattered Lives, The Gay Husband Checklist, and How I Made My Husband Gay
Newsletter: Bonnie Kaye’s straight talk
UK survey of 1,200 gay husbands – one question : do you plan to tell your wife? 80% – NO; 20% “MAYBE”
Why she hates Brokeback Mountain: “In Brokeback Mountain, which I was very sickened by, they treat the wives as these weak, wimpy women,” Kaye says. “One was very stupid, and the other was a naggy, whiny wife, so you feel like she deserved it. I think people perceive straight wives as unsympathetic. They don’t feel bad for us. We are never the heroes.”
Debra Sutton (Texas) : Book: Signs of a Gay Husband: Identifying Closeted Gay Husband Behaviors.
The “behaviors”: physical and verbal abuse, obsession with the gym, constantly grooming (wants to be ready for a sexual encounter at any time), secretive computer time, long trips to Home Depot, and derogatory comments about female smells.
Francine Barbetta (Pennsylvania):
Barbetta’s husband was always strongly homophobic, a churchgoer, and a Republican. “Classic,” she says. One day he came home. “It was almost like he was starstruck,” Barbetta recalls. “You know that look when somebody is falling in love.”
Her husband was shopping at Pier 1 Imports and told Barbetta he’d made a new friend, the manager, and was excited that they were going to become gym buddies. Barbetta went to the store.
“He was 20 years younger than my husband. He had dyed hair and an effeminate look. I said, ‘I’m Francine. I think you know my husband.’ He turned 10 shades of white, and I knew immediately,” she says……