What started all the fun and games : My Coming Out – also posted on Facebook
My Coming Out
Over the last ten years little pieces of my journey have been made known to various members of my family and a few friends. The reason I am writing to everyone is because I am a gay man. I think this is a birthday present to myself
k it is time that the rest of you know as well.
A piece that says it well
Despite feeling trapped and unable to express myself, I did not want to be liberated at the expense of losing relationships and friendships. As a pre-teenager who watched the news, which featured disownment, harsh treatments, bashings and murders of gay people, I feared for my life. I constantly questioned if honesty to the world was worth being beaten, harassed and possibly killed. Coming out was one of the hardest tasks of my life. Although it has its ups-and-downs, I do not regret being open and honest with myself.
Even though I did not openly state my sexuality until May 2008, I was taunted by classmates for many years, and even more so after I officially came out. In sixth grade, a few classes went to go watch a musical at a local high school. While we were walking into a venue, there was my obnoxious peer who kept saying, “We all know you’re GAY, just admit it!” I tried to ignore her, then she said it again, “You’re GAY right? Just admit it.” Luckily, there was a very sweet boy who defended me by saying, “Shut up! Who cares if he’s gay, it doesn’t make a difference.” After feeling frustrated with the situation and frustrated with being taunted, I yelled, “FINE. I am gay. Leave me alone.” I never understood and I still do not understand why some people feel obligated to know whom I love. The sense of entitlement is egotistical and rude, because if someone is not comfortable sharing this information, we should not stress it. This is the same for queer persons: we should not try to forcefully “out” someone. It is not our prerogative. Curiosity is fine until it turns into aggression……